海天之间: January, 2008

January 28

雪快点退去吧

新闻里报纸上到处都是交通瘫痪、粮油电煤供给出现问题的新闻，都是雪惹得祸

白白的是很漂亮，到处都是少见的景致，可是给大家造成了很大的不便甚至是灾难

1991年的大雪，我记不得了，所以在我看到这几天的雪景时没办法不感叹，但现在看到那么多人因为雪而没法回家，这雪便不是那么美了

不要雪灾，也不要全球变暖，要一个平和的世界

January 26

雪．白

一觉醒来，满世界银白。

记起几日前的小雪，那时的我已经激动不已，眼前这绵绵雪花却让我很平静。

雪让这个世界很安静。

没有天气预报的话，我们没有办法知道这突然的惊喜会在冬季的哪一天发生，只是，有那么一天，大地突然白了。

其实下雪也要撑伞，下雪鞋也会湿，可比起雨，我们还是更喜欢雪，是因为它少吗？

今年不是一个暖冬，这样很好。

January 21

图书馆两三事

仿佛现在有校园情结的人不在少数，今天我也不可避免的被感染了一番。。。

学校图书馆去得不如学校教育超市那么频繁，但每次去几乎也都要花钱，欠费-.-|||

每次都会借满7本搬回寝室，然后就摆着，看过一些，主要还是参考书，文艺书籍很少。中文书库是去的最多的，人文书库里有空调，实在太热，戴着围巾帽子的我受不了这般热浪，各国文学、报告文学、诗歌......想起大一时借诗经坐在草地上看然后被警卫赶走，现在还是会做这样的事情吧。还是去中文书库找我要的书吧，这里实用了很多，英语、经管。。。这里没有空调，也不冷，很舒适，一排排的书，新的惹人驻足，旧的增添气氛。。。走上狭窄的楼梯，是中文书库的二层，新老专业书籍都可以在这里找到，还能听到管理阿姨的聊天声，感觉在图书馆工作的确十分惬意，有拥有的感觉，有静谧的感觉。三楼是外文书库，记得第一次去之前，同学跟我说那里不是很好，用她的话说是“诡异”。在爬上另一个狭窄楼梯后，便是罕有人至的外文书库了，看到过一些国外大学赠与的图书，一大本书，似乎很重，可当它安静地立在书架上时，也只是占据了一小片领地，一小段历史和一小块知识。外文书库的确很诡异，银灰色的铁书架、超低的天花板、花了的窗玻璃，不过，这一切使它很有气质。在这里很自由，没有人的地方通常只要不是特别偏远都会让人很放松很自由，当然，偶然的一记咳嗽声提醒我，在某排书架后，有人。

学校的图书馆在暑假里改造过了，每次大家谈起这个时，都是这样说的“就修了外面呀，里面一点没变”。感觉这样只有好，我喜欢里面那超低的天花板和不方便行走的狭窄楼梯。

图书馆永远不会是个过时的地方，每天都有新书上架，每天都有师生借阅，如果一个世界能够这般隐隐地运作着，会少掉许多喧闹和纷扰。

再一次捧着7本书交了欠费，刷卡拿了包，记得以前有个专门的阿姨会边吃饭边帮大家寄包发牌子，那排柜子原本所在的地方放上了柔软的无背沙发，黄绿色的天鹅绒沙发套，忍不住用手轻轻滑过。好像以前图书馆里有个小花园，就如同每一个老校区都会有那么一两个没什么人去过，又不开放的地方一样，那里的花草树木很久没有人打理了，竟也有了别致的幽静。可惜现在没有了，一切都“光明正大”起来。

松江的图书馆，以前经常在里面自修，印象最深的是那里很滑的木质深色桌椅，好久没去了，现在没有那里的卡了，上一次路过，看到的还是如山如海的自修人群，对了，对松江图书馆的还有一个印象就是冬天热，夏天冷，空调太猛。

走出图书馆，抱着书，招摇过市，“哈哈，我是考研过后还去图书馆没别的地方去的大四学生哟”。怀念这般悠闲借书看书的日子。

一直都听到说我们学校的藏书不够多，新书都在松江，设备老旧，其实，我并不在乎这些。书再不多，我也看不完，我也借不完，松江的新书主要是专业参考书，给我一堆化学新书也没用，我也没什么需要要知道现在上海图书馆、其它图书馆的藏书情况，这里对我来说已经足够。

不知道大家还记得以前的寄包牌子吗？

好在我们依然有着我一直不知道有什么功能的借书牌，拿着它，心里就有种求知的神圣感。

January 20

继续

大家放着假不放，都去实习了，或者是接着面试，听过的，没听过的，要去的，不要去的，具有体力得到处闯荡。要是让我接着这样四处奔波，肯定吃不消。反正，人人的生活都不一样，保研、考研、求职、出国、公务员。。。在我所能列出的可能性外还有很多别的，不可能一一去尝试的，o(∩_∩)o...

再一次发表对于四处面莫名公司的意义的质疑，体力可以花费，浪费别人机会不太好。

今天考研结束了，生活继续o(∩_∩)o...人生就是这般不断有着事要做，但仍然可以有时间审视一下周围。

空间是个汇报好消息和陈述中性事件的地方，一般欲扬先抑的基本不用看了，不写臭美的空间。看别人晒晒也无妨。

January 16

相信魔法

纸飞机可以飞？是的，当我们把它投射出去时，它的确能飞，可是不一会儿就会落下，如果它一直不会落下，而是不断地飞，忽上忽下，直到看不见。。。那该多好。看到很多的毛绒玩具坐在商店里，总是很想去抱，它们应该都在等着被领回家，成为一个家庭的新成员。

玩具，可以像童话里一样拥有生命，当然只是在电影里。看了魔法玩具屋，看到那些千奇百怪的玩具，想到“只要你相信，就会有魔法存在”。

January 11

混乱之中

朋友问我是扣除福利和补贴，还是不扣，扣了和不扣哪种好，哪种正确，问了无数。。。

开始烦这些，本来就是鱼肉地位的我们，没什么好多想的，双向选择的天枰不是那么平衡。。。

我也开始烦，为了一点小事，平静不得，估计饮食出了问题，身体影响心理。

人开心仿佛多是因为小事，不开心也是。

工作呢？难说，眼光远的和短浅的都在这当口思索着，想要看穿1年或10年后的差别。

立场，从来都很少客观，保研的，考研的，工作的，留学的，各有各的立场，也难怪，自己都不替自己说话，如何看到希望。

我想看的影视的出片速度已经跟不上我看的速度，可能艺术本就跟不上生活的现实，弥补的只是一小块。

January 10

游走淮海路

从四号线到上海体育馆，发现就是原来乘沪松线的地方，登上42路，迷离地看着窗外，离淮海路有很多站，听着旁边替孩子找好初中的家长的谈话，不一会发现眼前的这片天地不同一般，闪过一个路牌写着“衡山路”，便不奇怪了。

到了淮海路后，开始乱走，一个人走在街上，总会不自觉的走的很快，捂着包，树匆匆往后，店铺匆匆往后，像是在逃，经过了上海妇女用品商店，对这类有些年头的商店心里会有一暖，不像我在Dior面前逃亡似的迅速掠过，至今不能体会买奢侈品的心里状态，偏爱买床单、买草莓、买报纸时那份单纯的心境，物品没有凌驾于我。

这几天雾很大，雾散了便是阴沉，没有多逛，搭上911回学校，坐在小时候一直很喜欢的第二层车的前排，经过了红房子西餐厅，只有一个小门面了，经过了宋庆龄故居，脑海里跳出两个词“静谧”和“好地段”，淮海路其实不安静，公车刹车的声音很刺耳，经过了一栋小洋房，估计是历史建筑了，很想和它的主人交流一下，如何在这左邻右舍都日新月异的地段安营扎寨，保持静止，做别人的参照物，做历史的参照物。常熟路站的地铁出口旁看到一只拉布拉多，体型适中，眼神忧郁，刚想拍下，车启动了。。。

911还在开，一切都能俯视，除了这沉郁的天。。。

January 09

开始纪念...开始怀念

现在开始怀念大学生活，现在开始纪念大学生活，请告诉我这些都不算太早。。。

想起各具风格的老师，想起各有魅力的课程，想起应考的苦与乐，上课的振奋与萎靡，食堂的品位和会议。。。。

无数需要想起，无数需要被纪念，难以割舍的怀旧情结，竟使我在大学的尾巴上硬要把自己驻扎在这个时间，潜意识里固执得要留在学校，简单的生活，上课正好不迟到，午饭跟大家一起挤，自修室里体验钻研和临时抱佛脚的乐趣，寝室里卧谈和烧开水，自修被打断而加入聊天阵营，早起不得，从来不得，除了那段我独自晨跑的凄美岁月。。。。

记忆是更具体的存在，的确，当我想起如今记忆中的场景时，我反而更能体验其中的美好。

从今天起开始记起一些事，记下一些事，乐与大家分享，乐与大家共同回忆。

我还是爱我的大学的。

开始酝酿是用结构化方法还是面向对象方法来回忆这一段人生。

January 07

how to enjoy life?

In The Magic of Starting Small, I made the point that it is your days that define your life. In this article, I want to challenge the common perception that it is only possible to enjoy your leisure time. In particular, this article is targeted at the professional stuck in the 9 to 5 grind who longs for the weekend and, in the process, has given up on trying to find pleasure in the ordinary experiences we have every day.

1. Appreciate Beauty

Each day we come across beauty in a number of shapes and forms. It’s a shame, then, that many people have become so accustomed to this beauty that it largely goes unappreciated. I suggest looking again at the people, plants, gadgets, and buildings (to name but a few examples) around you and taking a moment to appreciate what makes them so special.

2. Connect With Nature

Nature is an amazing healer for the stresses and strains of modern life. Eating lunch in the park, attending to a vegetable garden in your backyard, or watching the sunset are just a few simple ideas for how you can enjoy the outdoors on a daily basis.

3. Laugh

E. E. Cummings once said “the most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” How very true. Never be too busy to laugh, or too serious to smile. Instead, surround yourself with fun people and don’t get caught up in your own sense of importance.

4. Have Simple Pleasures

A good cup of Coffee when I first wake. Time spent playing with my 8 month old son. cooking a nice meal in the evening. These may not seem terribly exciting, but they are some of the simple pleasures I enjoy in life. If you slow down for just a moment and take the time to appreciate these ordinary events, life becomes instantly more enjoyable.

5. Connect With People

In so many ways, it is our relationships with people that give us the most Happiness in life. Perhaps, then, the best way to enjoy your work more is not to get a raise or a promotion, but rather to build rewarding relationships with your co-workers.

6. LearnThere is a strong link between learning and Happiness.

Given this, there is no excuse not to be stimulating your brain and learning something new each day. My favorite way to find time for learning is to make the most of the commute to and from work. Audiobooks and podcasts are great for this purpose.

7. Rethink Your Mornings and Evenings

Are the mornings a mad rush for you to get out the door? Do you switch off the TV at night and go straight to bed? I have personally experienced the profound benefits of establishing a routine in the morning and evening. For example, in the morning you may choose to wake an hour earlier and spend the time working on yourself, whether it be reading, writing or exercising. In the evening, consider spending some time just before bed reviewing your day or in meditation.

8. Celebrate Your Successes

During a normal day we are sure to have some minor successes. Perhaps you have successfully dealt with a difficult customer, made a sale, or received a nice compliment for your work. These aren’t events worth throwing a party for, but why not take a moment to celebrate your success? Share the experience with someone else, reward yourself with a nice lunch, or just give yourself a mental pat on the back.

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January 03

Ten Romantic New Year's Resolutions to Improve Your Relationship

RomanceStuck.com,an online resource for romance and relationships, offers 10 New Year's resolutions for improving your relationship in 2008. Resolutions are usually about improving yourself as an individual. They're not often geared towards improving your relationship. This year, why not set a few romantic resolutions?

10 Romantic New Year's Resolutions to Improve your Relationship:

1. Set a monthly 'date night' and stick to it. Even if it's just dinner and a movie or a candle-lit dinner together at home, resolve to make time for each other this year.

2. Say "I Love You" every single day. These three small words carry so much meaning, yet they're never said often enough. Make sure that your partner knows you love and appreciate them every single day.

3. Put your love in writing. Nothing gives you warm fuzzies of love like receiving a simple love note or a passionate love letter. Vow this year to put pen to paper and write your sweetie love notes, love poems, and love letters.

4. Bring back the spontaneity in your relationship! Try sending her flowers "just because". Buy him 2 tickets to a game of his favorite sport -- and go with him! Vow to surprise your partner at least once a month.

5. Get away from it all with a weekend get-away. Head to a cabin in the mountains or a relaxing spa. It doesn't really matter where you go, as long as you go together and leave the interruptions behind.

6. Show your love each and every day. Give your partner compliments, hold hands, open doors, and engage in public displays of affection. It's the little things you do to show your love that always mean the most.

7. Shake up your romantic life with a little creativity. Create your own love coupon book with one coupon for your partner to redeem each week of the year. These little coupons can be as romantic, sexy, or practical as you want.

8. Have fun together! Take up a new hobby together this year. Join a softball team together, take cooking lessons, golf lessons, or dancing lessons. You'll not only learn something new, but you'll have fun with your partner at the same time!

9. Don't forget the little things. Make him lunch. Paint her toenails. Wash and wax his car. Do her weekly chores. It's the most practical way to show your love!

10. Get to know your partner better. Whether you're dating, just married, or celebrating your 25th anniversary, there is always more to learn about your partner -- and you can have fun doing it!

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January 01

新年好！

新的一年，开奥运会的一年，离开大学的一年，开始工作的一年！

08年是中国年，08年毕业的我们面对的是更加激动人心的世界，迎接的是更加精彩的生活！

每年都会定下新年计划，每年年初都会为这一年要完成得那么多事而感到头疼，但回首看07年，我走了过来，顺利地完成。

所以08年也要勇敢面对！

祝大家新年快乐，拥有更加美好的生活！